I went out for a meal with a good friend of mine, Katie, last week for a catch up. We see each other probably 6 or 7 times a year after she moved to Exeter a few years ago. We worked together for over 10 years back in the 90’s and had real fun!
She’s one of those friends that can carry on where we left off the last time we saw each other without skipping a beat. It’s always as if we’ve only been apart for a couple of days and not months as is usually the case…a very good friend.
She’s a lot like me. She’s been through rough patches in the past, had her worries and complications but got through them by being determined that it wouldn’t always be like this. 7 years ago she met ‘Mr Wonderful’ and everything has been good since. 5 years ago she moved to Exeter and, at the time, I felt a little lost. She was one of only a handful of people I could trust and be natural with. She also helped me through my rough patches and I will be forever thankful to her for being there.
Anyways, she asked me a really, out of the blue, question during our meal that I had to think about before I could offer a true answer. She said:
“Gail, I’ve known you for some years now and I’ve seen you go from bitter to sweet over the last 5 years or so. Nothing seems to get you down, you always look satisfied and appear to be in control…is there anything that doesn’t sit right in your life?”
I immediately said no, nothing gets to me…not any more. I’ve learned to control that bitterness & anger and always look for a solution to a problem and not to shy away from it.
“Aw, C’mon” she said “there must be something that grinds your gears…otherwise you wouldn’t be human”
She was right, of course, there is something that makes me very angry, but I counteract it with support, both financial and practical. It’s cruelty to animals.
It’s almost acceptable in some areas of the world and that what grinds my gears…it’s acceptance.
It used to keep me awake at night, make me sad and miserable and invade my thoughts throughout the day. I would bottle it all up inside and only complain to myself and my husband. It wasn’t until I actually did something about it that the anger and resentment started to ease.
I hated seeing bullfights, fox hunting, bear baiting, big game hunting or any other blood ‘sports‘.
It really did get to me.
I would switch off the TV if anything involving animal cruelty came on. Exit a webpage or Facebook post that involved anything to do abusing animals. Put my hand over images in newspapers whilst barely being able to read the report of some unfortunate beast being tortured.
This was the problem. I couldn’t face it, so I kept all that negativity festering inside me…getting ever bigger and darker until the mere thought of cruelty depressed me.
Since learning to change my life and mindset, this is no longer a negativity in my life. I still find the whole thing hideous, but now I fight back by helping organisations around the world to stop these barbaric events taking place.
Years ago I would have been afraid to speak out, frightened that I would be shouted down and be made to look stupid.
What was I thinking?? The subject was hurting me inside and it was affecting my life. I knew it was wrong, but those people who carry out these cruel acts are bigger and louder than me, they would tear me apart if I told them how I felt.
How wrong I was.
As soon as I made up my mind to change the way I approach this problem, the relief was instant. I committed to help stop cruelty to animals…and I wasn’t scared any more…I was relieved.
Since that moment I have become a member of several organisations and support them vocally, financially and happily. Once my mindset had focused on actively doing positive things to the negative thoughts, they started to disappear.
Now I can read and look at those stories & images and instead of covering them up, turning away and doing nothing but worry and get depressed, I say “What can I do about this?“, “How can I help these defenceless animals?“, “How can I educate people that this is wrong?”
And it makes me feel better. I get involved and suddenly I become positive. Negativity is shunned and becomes weak and is easily destroyed.
Sure, there are people out there that disagree with my passion, and that’s a real shame. But as long as I know I’m right and believe what I do makes a difference, however small, my fears drift away.
This is only one example of how my mindset has been changed by the Law of Attraction for the good. If your instincts tell you something is wrong…then something is wrong. You must change it.
So, yes, not everything is perfect in my world and I realise it never will be perfect, but that’s not my fault and I take great pleasure in knowing that.
I guess the whole point of this post is a simple message I want to get across. If something doesn’t feel right in your world and it’s having an effect on your life…do something about it. Don’t bottle it all up inside. Keeping it all in won’t get you what you want. It will rot away inside until it’s too late to anything about it. Too late.
Face your problems full on, get them out of the way, seize them, control them, conquer them. Get the result you want, don’t wait for the result you fear.
Be true to yourself and strong with your actions, you’ll feel the positive power of relief when you face your fears.