Is the Law of Attraction NOT working for you? Have you tried EVERYTHING to make it work, yet are still in the same position you were a few months ago…or even worse?
Do you feel disheartened that the Law of Attraction promised so much but gave so little…if anything?
Hey, I know how you feel.
This post is meant for people who are in a desperate state in their lives and not for those who are simply curious to how the Law of Attraction works.
What I’m about to tell you won’t be pretty and some may even feel a little insulted by my conclusions. Let me tell you now…I tell it like it is. I feel it’s the only way to get my thoughts across without the fluff and faddle that can leave you even more confused about the Law of Attraction.
You see, I know the Law of Attraction works because I’ve been in that awful state of nearly losing my mind, nearly giving up on life and feeling the dark heavy cloud of depression enveloping me and making my life a misery. I’ve written about the state my life was in before, so I won’t dwell on that here.
Needless to say, I was sick to death of things going wrong for me, sick and tired of feeling useless and frustrated with the fact that everyone around me seemed to be in control of their lives…why was I suffering with misfortune at every waking hour?
Create A Life Switch
I had to do something pretty quick before I did something really stupid. I gave myself no choice but to get my head around my situation and started studying the Law of Attraction back in 2009. I made myself accept the law with such belief that I probably upset a few people around me…but I didn’t care, this was all about ME.
It was time to get selfish; so selfish that I changed my whole persona. I was always the one who would help others out, always the one with a kind word and always the one smiling. No one knew the burning hatred of my own life; I simply didn’t let it show.
You may think “hang on, you became a monster? That goes against everything the Law of Attraction teaches“
And you would be right in that assumption, but let me get one thing straight. To really live the Law of Attraction you have to be in control of your own life first.
You have no chance of manifesting your own destiny if you have no control over your own mind. I had to change because, quite simply, I was weak in mind and weak in life.
I needed to be a strong, confident human being who is able to send out my vibes with confidence, if that meant being totally selfish, so be it.
If the Law of Attraction is not working well for you, ask yourself, ‘have I really changed?‘
I became really, really selfish, and that meant losing one or two of my ‘friends’. I say friends, but they were just negative influences on my life. The energy I got from them was useless; in fact, they tended to drain the positive out of me. I stopped seeing them.
Don’t feel guilty about letting people down. It’s all part of the learning. If you go around making other people feel good, but then you, yourself, are feeling bad, then what’s the point? You are only further damaging yourself. Selfish, yup!
But don’t worry about it. There will become a time when you will be a better person than you ever were and then, and only then, will you be able to help people so much more…because you will now be in control of your life. People will appreciate you a whole lot more. A win-win situation.
I’m not saying you have to be nasty or vindictive, those are negative traits, but you will have to change your outlook and personality to suit the situation. It takes time.
I then went around my house and threw anything I didn’t like out, not sell, but throw out completely.
This included a dresser I’ve always hated. Clothes that didn’t look right on me went to charity, items from my past, crammed in boxes in the garage and loft, was either given away or thrown away, anything that held a negative energy went.
Don’t get me wrong, this didn’t happen overnight in an explosion of ‘madness’! No, this was a process that went on calmly for about a year until everything that either held a negative memory, or just didn’t ‘feel’ right in my house, went.
I stopped reading the news, or watching it on TV. It’s full of negativity with just the odd glimpse of goodness now and again. If there is more minus points in your life than positive, get rid of them.
I gave up work because I hated it. It drained 8-10 hours of my daily life. Selfish? Damn right!
But now I had a direction to go in. I was heading for the Law of Attraction. My mindset refused to let any unnecessary negative thoughts into my head, you know, the piddly little things like ‘oh no. it’s going to rain again‘ or ‘I expect that bill will arrive tomorrow‘ and ‘Ugh, dentist next Tuesday‘. These little negative thoughts add up to one big negative energy field that surrounds you.
Now I don’t look upon these little ‘problems’ as minus points anymore. It takes a while to get as positive as this, but you will need to make real changes in your life.
Of course, those are tiny examples. The really big changes from negativity to positiveness takes a leap of faith and an undoubted belief in yourself. It takes time.
Change Is Not Easy – Belief Is
Sometimes, as I was going though all this, I felt all the bad emotions connected with what I was trying to achieve. Guilt, Envy, Hate, Disbelief, Apathy, Anger, Frustration.
This is normal. There will be times when you feel guilty about telling someone you’re not happy with a certain situation. You will feel envy when you see other people living happily…you may even hate them. You will say to yourself ” The Law of Attraction NOT WORKING” and then won’t be bothered to carry on even trying. You will feel angry that the Law of Attraction doesn’t seem to be working for you and you will get frustrated because you think you’ve done everything you can to make this work.
The biggest problem I had were the negative voices in my head. I would wake each morning and try to get into a positive mindset straight away, but the little voice would say ‘why bother…it isn’t working?‘…and that voice was louder than my positive voice. Big problem. This is the Law of Attraction working in the opposite way we want it too.
I also had a problem with smiling. Waking up and smiling each day will make you feel better, but it was as if I was lying to myself every time I forced a smile. But, you know what, it actually does work. Cut everything from your mind and smile. It simply makes you feel better, if only for a second at the beginning, but it’s a start.
If you feel down at this very moment, try a smile. If it feels awkward and wrong it’s normal, but did you feel that tiny spark of lightness?
Gradually, and over time and with undoubted belief, life began to change…for the better.
Simple little changes, forced to begin with, become life savers. Don’t let anyone say the Law of Attraction is easy to implement, it isn’t and that’s why so many people fail.
You have to really want it. You have to dig, so deep, inside yourself and believe in it. You have to be prepared to make a life shift; the one you’re living right now is not working…change it
The Madness of The Law of Attraction
I must admit here and now that I thought, at times, I was bordering on madness! There, I’ve said it! I actually had arguments, in my own head, with myself.
This is why I asked you if you really have tried the Law of Attraction to the fullest that you can. This is why you need a level of commitment that borders on madness. This is why you have to ask yourself ‘do I really want it that much‘? It’s not madness, of course, it’s the battle you face to get rid of the negativity in your life.
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u see, a lot of people have struggles in their life, really bad struggles, horrid struggles and think that by simply trying the Law of Attraction for 30 days, or 60 days, it will get them out of their nightmare of a life. It may well do in some cases, but in the vast majority, and that includes me, it takes a whole life shift.
But if you really do want life to be sweet, to be happy and to be uncomplicated, you sometimes have to hit rock bottom first. After that, the only way is up.
This was quite a long post, so I’ll cut it short now, but I will be giving out more truthful experiences in future posts. If the Law of Attraction is not working for you, ask yourself this; Are you truly and fully immersed in changing your life for the better, no matter how uncomfortable you feel doing it?
Be truthful with yourself, 100%. Go deep inside yourself, so deep it’s almost scary. If there are any doubts at all that you’re not doing all you can to better your life, and those close to you, you need to go over and over again the teachings of the Law of Attraction until you don’t second think it.
This is the most basic I can go in telling you about the Law of Attraction and Manifesting your wants and desires.
I will be going over techniques you HAVE to do in order to change your life for the better. As said before, some of it isn’t pretty!
Really great article, this is the summary of everything I have learnt about LOA.
I have been using it and attracted so many good things into my life. I wish more people will know about it and believe in it.
If I may, I would summarize the LOA like this.
1. Have a clear picture of what you want to attract to your life.
2. Put emotion in that thought.
3. Be calm about it, act as if you already have those things in your life.
4. Be grateful and send out positive vibes everyday.
5. Take actions
6. Receive what you asked for and be thankful about it ?
* And don’t forget to share your expereince with your friends
Summed up beautifully! I would also add ‘undoubted belief’ that the LOA works to your insightful list.
Thank you so much for this. Like, thank you SO MUCH
Thank you, Rachel 🙂
This is very interesting. I usually find these great articles months or even years after they were written. This one seems to be very recent based on the dates of the accompanying comments at this point. Cool!
Gail, I like you! I like the way you write. You got attitude! I found you by Googling Manifestation Miracle. I’m on a list and the guy sent me his bid to sell it to me. And you’re right, there are TONS of books, articles, systems and the like all trying to promote their own angle on the LOA. Right now I am reading Alan Tutt’s book, “Choose To Believe”. Excellent book on manifesting! Actually has a great section on discovering what one believes and offers ways to change beliefs.
But what caught my attention here and caused me to respond is Naveen’s request for help with anxiety. Energy psychology is very effective for this kind of thing. There are many different modalities available, the oldest and most popular being EFT, or Emotional Freedom Techniques. I’ve been involved with it for over ten years, using it for myself and teaching many classes on it. I highly recommend EFT. Google the term or especially go to Youtube and search it. Thousands of videos on how to use it to change those nasty anxiety feelings. Another is Faster EFT with Robert Smith. He has over 700 videos of him teaching it and using it with clients. Excellent stuff!
I know and can work with many energy psychology modalities. From Pure Awareness Techniques to BSFF, (Be Set Free Fast) Release Technique to Sedona Method. Yeun Method to Faster EFT, and others. This whole field of energy psychology has been a real area of research for me over the last decade and more. But my favorite method is my own. It’s the result of taking what I believe is the best of several techniques plus my own elements and combining them to create a very simple, fast and effective method for releasing unwanted, negative emotions. It’s called The MORE Method.
Like the Law Of attraction and any of these methods of self change, it takes a little getting used to and some practice to get good at it. But with just a little persistence over even a week or so, one will begin to see positive results. Even with feelings of anxiety.
What’s more, I am not selling my method. At least not yet. Right now it’s free and part of a book I am compiling information and material for that I am working on. But I have posted the most important part of the basics of the method on a WordPress blog. Here is the address… https://jimshane.wordpress.com/2014/10/16/the-more-method/
But here is the main problem with ALL of these modalities, and even traditional psychology and therapy… it’s knowing what questions to ask. The method works when you know what to work on. But so often we don’t know what to work on. Oh , we may know the problem, but we don’t know how to approach fixing it, what to ask or how to discover what causes it. We don’t know how to get to the root of a problem so we can eliminate it entirely. So in my book I will also add what I call “The Issues List”. This will give most anyone a good place to start discovering what the real problem is and then, with the MORE Method, eliminate it. This link should take you to The Issues List… https://jimshane.wordpress.com/2015/06/29/133/ If not, it is in the list of articles to the right on the same blog. jimshane.wordpress.com
It is my belief that by learning the MORE Method well and then going through the issues list, one can begin to really clean out the negative emotions that stop us from moving forward. Then one can use the MORE Method to begin to change their beliefs and thus their life.
My book is not complete. It will be a while before it is. But the basic elements of it are outlined on my blog and I have made it available to anyone who would like to discover a wonderful way to find More peace, happiness and success in life. Blessings to you Gail. You are coming from the heart on your blog. Thank you for that. 🙂
Hi Jim…thanks for the kind words!
I’ve read a lot of publications relating to LOA, but Alan Tutt’s “Choose to Believe” is a new one to me. I’ll have to look it up when I get back to the UK. I’ll also read up on your other recommendations too.
I like the look, and feel, of your MORE Method. Please be sure to let me know when you release it to the masses. I’d like read it and perhaps review it on my website. I’ve looked over your own blog and the MM looks a very interesting concept for getting rid of negativity, something we all could benefit from, and getting to the root of many problems. I know you will make a success of your methods.
Funny you should mention the Manifestation Miracle. A few weeks ago I looked over some reviews on the Internet and it’s clear that most of them have only skimmed over other reviews and not even read the publication! I chose to include it on my blog because it gives a straight forward view on how to start manifesting, and it explains it better than I could. I’m a little too ‘full-on’ for some people and may have come across as brutal in my suggestions on how to make a better life for oneself.
Once back home, I will read your blog thoroughly and then look forward to reading your MORE Method publication.
Kind regards, Jim and thanks for stopping by 🙂
Gail
Dear madam,
i know the law of attraction works, the only thing stopping me is Anxiety. i get serious anxiety attacks regarding my desires along with tension, fear etc, though i have manifested in a small scale, the above mentioned negative feelings block me from manifesting all the big stuff. Please help me to overcome them.
Hi Naveen,
That’s a tough one! Anxiety is a big area that is beyond anything I could easily recommend to cure. I’ve not studied it to the point where I can dish out advice, but, I believe I suffered from anxiety, of some form, a few years ago. I initially put this down to deep depression.
The only way I escaped this mental torture was to drastically change almost everything about my life. I had simply had enough.
Worry, fear, stress, and a sense of foreboding was all around me. I was just sick of feeling like that. The moment I woke up every morning, I felt dread until one day I just decided to become a different person. Sounds easy? Nope! It didn’t happen overnight, in fact, it took me about a year before my life turned around completely. On that journey, the stress and fear drifted away daily.
I have to be brutally honest here…not everyone can get away from depression, or anxiety, and even trying to escape can bring on even more stress! But my inner voice and thoughts became so strong and loud it dismissed all negativity and I began, truly, to only focus on what I wanted. Deep belief and total commitment in myself and what I wanted from life shut out the apprehension and agitation of those nagging doubts.
Yes, manifestation does work, there is absolutely no doubt, but to get the bigger things out of life, you need to be 100% committed to that belief and live your life accordingly.
Be strong and determined 24/7. It’s not easy, but with total faith in yourself and strength in your positive mental attitude towards life, you will stop consternation.
That’s my belief. You are in control of the thoughts in your mind. Don’t let anxiety stop you from getting what you want out of life. Work hard at killing it. Meditate, get control of your thoughts, read about manifestation techniques, watch Bob Proctor videos on YouTube…you can do this.
Gail